If you told me a year ago that I’d find my girl squad on social media, I would’ve laughed, rolled my eyes, and scrolled right past the thought. Social media? For making friends? It seemed way too risky, way too awkward, and honestly, a little too good to be true. But here I am, with a group of ride-or-die women I now call my friends, all thanks to one random social media group I stumbled across while mindlessly scrolling.

Let me set the scene. I’m not someone with a massive friend group. In fact, I’ve always preferred keeping my circle small and meaningful. But over the past few months, I have turned into the kind of person who doesn’t hesitate to cut people off – whether they’re bringing bad vibes or just not aligning with who I am becoming. No matter how long the friendship was, if it was not good for me, it had to go.

So, I started cutting people off. Brutally, unapologetically, and without hesitation. At first, it felt liberating. Like I was Marie Kondo-ing my social life – getting rid of anything (or anyone) that didn’t spark joy. But there’s a downside to that approach: when you cut off all the toxic people in your life, your circle gets really small, really fast.

Suddenly, I found myself in a weird space. I had no regrets about letting those friendships go, but I couldn’t ignore how lonely it started to feel. I wanted to surround myself with good energy and genuine support, but where on Earth do you even find new friends as an adult? The coffee shop? The gym? The Mall? …Akward.

One day, while scrolling through social media, I came across a group that caught my attention. It was a space for women looking to make meaningful connections. Their tagline was something along the lines of, “No drama, no competition, just real friendships.” I don’t know what pushed me to click “Join,” but I did, and let me tell you, that decision changed everything.

The group felt like a mix of a self-help forum and a safe space to vent. Women shared their experiences, their struggles, and, most importantly, their desire to find real friends who understood them. One post in particular stopped me in my tracks. A woman named… let’s call her “Tasha” wrote, “I’m so over friendships that feel like a chore. I just want people who genuinely care, hype each other up, and bring good energy into my life.”

I swear, it was like she was speaking directly to me. I commented on her post, and within minutes, we were DMing back and forth. It turned out Tasha had also gone through a phase of cutting off toxic friends and was rebuilding her circle with people who shared her values. We bonded instantly over our shared experiences and love for uplifting other women.

From there, things just clicked. The group started organising meetups, and though I was nervous about showing up at first IRL, I decided to go. And honestly? It was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.

The women I met were nothing like the drama-filled friendships I’d experienced in the past. These were women who genuinely showed up for each other. They were supportive, funny, and, most importantly, real. We bonded over everything from career struggles and relationship drama to skincare routines and Netflix recommendations.

Over time, these women became more than just “group chat friends.” We started meeting regularly, planning game nights, hyping each other up before big interviews, and even showing up for each other during tough times. One of the girls went through a messy breakup, and instead of just texting her a “You’ll be okay” message, we all rallied around her, took her out, and made sure she felt supported every step of the way.

What surprised me the most about this experience was how easy and natural it felt. There was no competition, no jealousy, no one secretly hoping you’d fail. It was just a group of women who wanted to see each other thrive.

Looking back, I’ve learned a lot from this journey. First, it’s okay to outgrow people, even if it feels hard or awkward at first. Letting go of toxic relationships clears the space for the right people to come into your life. Second, adult friendships take effort, but the payoff is worth it. Putting yourself out there isn’t easy, but it’s the only way to find your people.

So, if you’re feeling stuck or lonely, let this be your sign. Join that group, send that DM, or show up to that meetup. Yes, it might feel awkward at first, but you never know – your future best friends might just be one click away. And trust me, there’s no better feeling than finding a squad that truly has your back!